When I asked her what was new with the new guy, she said she's looking at rings. " in my head, while the other half screamed practical things, like "Pump the breaks!
They were married for four years, which is 48 times longer than they knew each other before committing (and longer than many other couples who dated for "normal" amounts of time before getting engaged). Well, recently a friend of mine had that exact sort of giddy smile you get about one month into a new relationship.
And you can discuss your values, and goals, and hopes and dreams, and both have the intention to stick things out if you run into trouble (which, in my opinion, is what marriage is all about vs. That said, is a month too soon to decide to commit to someone for life? Even well into your thirties—when people are more self-aware than they were in their twenties and know what they want—and into your forties—when having kids starts to feel a bit more urgent—you can still afford to wait six months.
I asked my boyfriend to give me the guy's perspective on this, and he said he thinks six months should be the standard minimum too.
Note: This question was in no way as awkward as when my mom decided to share "a great baby name" she thought of with us only three months into the relationship.
It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.
know that you're absolutely, positively crazy about someone, faults and all.
Oh, and you can know what those faults are and enter into a marriage with open eyes about who you're really marrying. Here are some things that I think should happen before you decide to get engaged, regardless of how long it's been: I tend to think that achieving all of those things usually takes six months (at the least).
If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?
How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.
Here's the thing—you can know a person for years before you get engaged, be happily married for years after that, and then something bad can happen.
It happened to many couples I know—couples who played by all the rules and waited "appropriate" amounts of time before committing. Down the road, someone still might cheat, or fall out of love, or want totally different things.