f you’re a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children I caution you against dating a man with kids.I did this once and, let me tell you, I learned my lesson.
So this brings me to my first point: If you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first.
I’m a rational person, so I realize that a man’s children should and will come first.
The Cop has two daughters and a demanding job, obviously.
His youngest daughter was extremely sickly or maybe just accident-prone.
It was difficult for us to make plans because we had different schedules, and, to make matters worse, his daughter would get sick (or whatever) when we had plans.
The girls’ mother also had a demanding job, so she never seemed available to deal with her own children.
He canceled the day of because his youngest daughter had hit her head and he’d spent the previous night in the emergency room.
I totally understood why he had to cancel, but the situation also reminded me why he and I could never work and why I will never date a man with children again.
I dated The Cop off-and-on for about six years and I have to admit that love kept me from realizing just how big a problem his children were in our relationship.
Recently, he and I made plans to have a friendly, totally platonic drink to celebrate my promotion.
Most men try to avoid conflict with the women in their lives at all costs, so it’s a pretty safe bet that he will go along with whatever ridiculousness his children’s mother puts him through.