Flirt with him, flatter and praise him (but keep it genuine please), and show appreciation by thanking him.And, let him lead the way for at least the first 4-8 dates.The best course of action is to hold off on intimacy for a while to get to know the man and insure you get the respect you want and deserve. Most men still prefer to pursue women during the initial phase of dating.
This article might seem shocking and archaic, but it’s all true. Of course I asked for specifics – what does desperate look like?
The other night I had dinner with my husband and two of his single male friends (Ben and Jack) who launched into a tirade about dating today. Turns out it boils down to two very basic and rather traditional concepts: 1)Men don’t want women to chase them 2)Men don’t like when “the chase” is too easy Dating is an Ancient Mating Ritual. How can this be in an age of equality between the sexes?
Simple human nature creates the desire to want what isn’t readily available and without this tension, there's nothing to "conquer." Women Feel the Same Way. My female clients complain all the time about men who are “too nice,” clingy, or come on too strong.
Or think about all the women who love "bad boys;" men who are unavailable or unattainable.
This is the flip side of the very same coin, so to speak.
My conclusion about Ben and Jack’s perspective on dating is this: For better or worse, the Dating Game is still in play. But that won't change the cold, hard facts from most men's perspective. Instead of chasing someone and risking the appearance of desperation, use your feminine charm to draw a man in. Demonstrate your delightful character by being fun to be with and looking your best.
These good-looking, 40 something, self-employed bachelors are frustrated with trying to find a decent woman. It’s really very simple – dating harkens back to ancient mating rituals that have not gone away, nor been modified as much as women would hope.
Dating Guidelines from the "Fellas" According to Ben, Jack and others, here are some guidelines that women might try following if they want to be perceived as “quality prospects” during your initial encounters with men: 1) With online dating, don’t initiate a flood of emails. 2) Don’t Call to Say Hi, Check in, or Discover Why He hasn’t Called. If you don’t like the slow pace, perhaps the guy isn’t the right one for you.
Some women email multiple times a day which makes them appear demanding, needy, or high maintenance. If you feel compelled to call when you haven’t heard from him, don't make more than one light-hearted and friendly call. Either he’ll pick up the ball or not, but leave that ball in his court.
3) As horrible as this old saying is, “There’s no reason to buy the cow if the milk is free.” This ugly double-standard is unfortunately still alive While all men don’t feel this way, it’s pretty hard to know who does and who doesn't before it’s too late.
It may be “old school” but there’s no arguing with what has worked well for eons and still works today.