Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable and dependable? Some people trust blindly, while others have trust issues.
Below are seven crucial factors, excerpted from my book (click on title): "Seven Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success". Without trust, none of the other six keys that follow will have much meaning.
A friend may trigger your higher or lower tendencies.
Authors Ronald Adler and Russell Proctor II identified four ways with which we can feel closely connected with our significant other.
The four dimensions of intimacy are: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, and Shared Activities.
Maybe you’re more reserved with one and more rambunctious with another.
Perhaps you’re patient with some and quarrel with others.
After answering for yourself, next ask your partner to rank, or on your own put down how you think your partner would prioritize.
The more “must-must” and “must-should” combinations between you and your partner, the greater the possibility of an intimate relationship.
Here’s a quick exercise to check you and your partner's compatibility in intimacy.
List the four dimensions as follows: _______________________________________________________ Partner A Partner B Physical Emotional Intellectual Shared Activities _______________________________________________________ Next to each dimension, rank whether this is a “Must” have, “Should” have, or “Could” have for you in your romantic relationship.
Since relationships are not static, a couple may evolve in the dimensions of intimacy.
Understanding one another’s priorities, and connecting in ways that are important to both partners help ensure long-term relational success. What Type of Person Shows Up Within You in this Relationship? Do different friends bring out different sides of you?