I just wanted to find the right man, someone who was perfect for me.
Between the time I started online dating and now, I’ve discovered exactly how dating websites work.
I’ve tracked and analyzed data, spoken to computer scientists and figured out what makes certain profiles successful.
It has to do more with neuroscience than superficiality.
We’re drawn to photos over text, because we can process that visual information and make inferences more quickly.
I’d enjoy an exhilarating freedom – I could learn how to paint or wear yoga pants all weekend long if I wanted. We’d meet up later that day, when I’d discover that he was (a) five inches shorter than he listed in his profile; (b) “fun-employed” and no longer looking for a job; (c) still in some kind of relationship; (d) possibly a serial killer; (e) all of the above.
Best of all, there were hundreds of online dating sites waiting for me to sign on. I didn’t want to throw myself back into the dating pool. I wasn’t interested in meeting dozens of single men.
If you use Pinterest, which puts all its emphasis on photos, you already know the power of an image.
Here are some basic answers to the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask.
In part because of how dating sites are designed, most of us see photos first, and that’s when we determine whether to read through the rest of a profile.
Years ago, I was just out of a terrible relationship and in no mood to date again.
My friends were all excited for my between-boyfriend time.
Whether you’re creating a new profile or you’re a long-time, frustrated online dater, I have some insights that will help make your experience better.
It may seem like online dating is straightforward, but what’s happening behind the scenes – and your screen – can be confusing and can often produce bizarre results.