I am not a smoker and never tried smoking, however I've been around smokers all my life.I can't stand the smell, even on clothes, hands etc, let alone breath.It pretty much ended up being the biggest reason that things didn't work out.
He does want to quit and is cutting down, but I doubt he'd be able to quit completely any time soon.
I'd love for him to quit smoking but he can't do it for me or for anyone but himself. I can help and support him and be there for him when he trips up and increases his smoking and not nag him whenever he lights up.
I have brought him inhalators and nicotine replacement gum.
I told myself never to date a smoker, and I haven't but, will it really bother me? By all means, I would never tell my guy from the beginning "quit it or else," but should things progress I would ask him to tone it down, like smoke one less a week, or every couple days, etc.
Just curious, those of you whom might feel like I do, is it really bad? I'm guessing since you are posting this that you are considering dating someone who smokes.
Basically, I would tell you not to date a smoker if you don't smoke yourself.You also say that you would eventually tell your partner to tone it down or to quit, even if it isn't in the beginning of the relationship.As somebody who likes to kiss and be affectionate, it was a huge turnoff to me. What helps me is that he does not smoke indoors, he always smokes outside.I also found myself as little as a few weeks into the relationship already mentioning in tiny ways how she might want to hold back a little bit or "don't you worry about your health", and etc. It's pretty annoying when we're in a restaurant and he wants to pop out for a cigarette and I'm there for about 5 minutes waiting.This definitely doesn't bode well for a relationship with a smoker, since he will feel like he is quitting for you and might end up resenting you for it, if he even quits at all.I've personally tried to date somebody that smoked even though I, like you, said that I never would.